As humans, we have two different ways of talking to each other. The first includes being judgmental, judgmental, and anxious.
The second way we can talk to ourselves is by acknowledging and acknowledging the good ideas, behaviors, and positive influences we have created each day while noticing the beauty and grandeur in everything around us.
The main theme is to think about benevolence towards oneself and towards others.
We all know what meanness looks like and it hurts. Kindness has a positive effect on everyone.
If you fall into the first thinking category, you can become your own best cheerleader while turning those negative thoughts into a positive way of seeing yourself and the world.
5 techniques to help you become your own best cheerleader
1. Say “stop” to any negative thoughts or behavior.
When you stop the thoughts, take credit for changing the direction of those thoughts. You can replace the negative thought with a goal, gratitude, a pleasant memory, or simply being aware of where you are right now. Look around in a state of gratitude.
2. Give yourself the credit you deserve.
Acknowledge every positive event, experience, or interaction you experience every day.
It can be done with your partner, your kids, or just mind control with yourself. You can congratulate yourself immediately after a good experience or a pleasant meeting.
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If I’m hiking and I stumble but keep myself from falling on my face, I make sure to say “good job, Janet”, and it’s uplifting.
3. Keep a gratitude list.
Challenge yourself to start with 100 experiences, memories, aspects of your life, and things you love that include parts of your personality that you value. Add to this list frequently.
4. Acknowledge and express positive feelings or appreciation towards others, even strangers.
Compliment others as often as you can and find positive and encouraging things to say to others. By expressing appreciation to others, the feelings and thoughts in our mind improve.
With the intention of seeing the good in others and in the world, you energetically become a global cheerleader.
5. Acknowledge the positive qualities you see in yourself.
Make a list that you can say out loud or in your mind. Here is a partial list to choose from: I’m strong, I’m healthy, I’m determined, I’m smart, I’m funny, I’m resilient, I’m loyal, I’m attractive, I’m adaptable, I’m gentle, I’m entertaining, I’m thoughtful, I’m abundant, I’m energetic, etc.
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Practice saying one of these things about yourself whenever the opportunity arises: while walking, driving, showering, or even with a therapist or good friend.
It’s fun to be your own cheerleader and as your self-talk improves, so do your life experiences and relationships. This could be a good step in healing our world!
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Janet Lee Whitney, MA, LMFT has been a licensed psychotherapist since 1982. She is the author of the book and program Facing Your Fears and Follow Your Dreams.